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'''Structure'''

{{Short description|Practical guide for the first 90 days after a suicide loss}}

{{Infobox book

| name = After the Shock: Surviving the First 90 Days After a Suicide Loss

| image =

| caption =

| author = Christine Rifenburgh

| country = United States

| language = English

| series =

| genre = Nonfiction; Self-help; Grief

| publisher =

| pub_date = 2025

| media_type = Print • eBook

| pages =

| isbn =

}}

• Days 1–30 (Shock ~~and~~ Logistics): ~~Focuses on immediate survival~~, ~~numbness~~, and basic ~~self-care during funeral planning and the initial aftermath~~.

'''''After the Shock: Surviving the First 90 Days After a Suicide Loss''''' is a 2025 nonfiction guide by American author Christine Rifenburgh. Written for survivors of suicide loss, the book focuses on day-to-day survival rather than long-term “healing,” offering practical tools, scripts, and coping strategies tailored to the uniquely complex grief that follows a suicide.

• Days 31–60 (Reality ~~and~~ Isolation): ~~Explores~~ the ~~fading~~ of ~~social support~~, ~~the onset of intense~~ guilt and anger~~, and the loneliness of adjusting to daily life without the loved one~~.

• Days 61–90 (Rebuilding ~~and~~ Integration): ~~Guides survivors~~ in ~~slowly accepting their new reality~~, ~~honoring their~~ loved ~~one’s memory, and carrying grief while moving forward~~ .

== Summary ==

~~Each chapter~~ addresses ~~specific emotions~~ and ~~experiences~~, ~~including:~~

The book frames the first three months as three survival phases:

~~• Shock~~ and ~~trauma~~ responses ~~(“The Shock That Breaks Everything”)~~

* '''Days 1–30 (Shock & Logistics):''' numbness, confusion, and basic functioning while handling immediate arrangements.

~~• Guilt~~ and ~~survivor’s blame (“The Guilt That Eats You Alive”)~~

* '''Days 31–60 (Reality & Isolation):''' the shock fades, emotions intensify, and outside support often declines; waves of grief, guilt, and anger are common.

~~• Anger~~ and ~~stigma (“The Anger Nobody Talks About”)~~

* '''Days 61–90 (Rebuilding & Integration):''' beginning to carry the loss while re-entering life in small, sustainable steps—honoring the loved one without forcing “closure.”

~~• Hurtful remarks from others~~

~~• Loneliness~~ and ~~isolation~~

Across these phases, Rifenburgh addresses stigma, intrusive “what-ifs,” and physical symptoms of traumatic grief, and provides ready-to-use responses for difficult conversations, grounding techniques, and an “emergency survival kit” for crisis moments.

~~• Recognizing symbolic ‘winks’ from the deceased~~

~~• Daily coping~~ routines ~~and survival strategies~~

== Background ==

• Honoring memory ~~without erasing pain~~

Rifenburgh wrote the book after the death of her brother, dedicating the work to him and positioning it as both a tribute and a practical companion for others facing suicide bereavement.

== Structure and themes ==

* Three-phase 90-day roadmap

* Scripts for social interactions and boundaries

* Managing guilt, anger, and loneliness

* Somatic/physical impacts of grief and basic self-care routines

* Honoring memory while continuing to live

== See also ==

* Suicide bereavement

* Traumatic grief

* Coping strategies in early bereavement

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 '''Structure'''
+{{Short description|Practical guide for the first 90 days after a suicide loss}}
+{{Infobox book
+| name         = After the Shock: Surviving the First 90 Days After a Suicide Loss
+| image        =
+| caption      =
+| author       = Christine Rifenburgh
+| country      = United States
+| language     = English
+| series       =
+| genre        = Nonfiction; Self-help; Grief
+| publisher    =
+| pub_date     = 2025
+| media_type   = Print • eBook
+| pages        =
+| isbn         =
+}}
-•	Days 1–30 (Shock and Logistics): Focuses on immediate survival, numbness, and basic self-care during funeral planning and the initial aftermath.
+'''''After the Shock: Surviving the First 90 Days After a Suicide Loss''''' is a 2025 nonfiction guide by American author Christine Rifenburgh. Written for survivors of suicide loss, the book focuses on day-to-day survival rather than long-term “healing,” offering practical tools, scripts, and coping strategies tailored to the uniquely complex grief that follows a suicide.
-•	Days 31–60 (Reality and Isolation): Explores the fading of social support, the onset of intense guilt and anger, and the loneliness of adjusting to daily life without the loved one.
-•	Days 61–90 (Rebuilding and Integration): Guides survivors in slowly accepting their new reality, honoring their loved one’s memory, and carrying grief while moving forward .
+== Summary ==
-Each chapter addresses specific emotions and experiences, including:
+The book frames the first three months as three survival phases:
-•	Shock and trauma responses (“The Shock That Breaks Everything”)
+* '''Days 1–30 (Shock & Logistics):''' numbness, confusion, and basic functioning while handling immediate arrangements.
-•	Guilt and survivor’s blame (“The Guilt That Eats You Alive”)
+* '''Days 31–60 (Reality & Isolation):''' the shock fades, emotions intensify, and outside support often declines; waves of grief, guilt, and anger are common.
-•	Anger and stigma (“The Anger Nobody Talks About”)
+* '''Days 61–90 (Rebuilding & Integration):''' beginning to carry the loss while re-entering life in small, sustainable steps—honoring the loved one without forcing “closure.”
-•	Hurtful remarks from others
-•	Loneliness and isolation
+Across these phases, Rifenburgh addresses stigma, intrusive “what-ifs,” and physical symptoms of traumatic grief, and provides ready-to-use responses for difficult conversations, grounding techniques, and an “emergency survival kit” for crisis moments.
-•	Recognizing symbolic ‘winks’ from the deceased
-•	Daily coping routines and survival strategies
+== Background ==
-•	Honoring memory without erasing pain
+Rifenburgh wrote the book after the death of her brother, dedicating the work to him and positioning it as both a tribute and a practical companion for others facing suicide bereavement.
+== Structure and themes ==
+* Three-phase 90-day roadmap
+* Scripts for social interactions and boundaries
+* Managing guilt, anger, and loneliness
+* Somatic/physical impacts of grief and basic self-care routines
+* Honoring memory while continuing to live
+== See also ==
+* Suicide bereavement
+* Traumatic grief
+* Coping strategies in early bereavement