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'''Structure'''   
'''Structure'''   
The book is divided into three phases: 
 
* Days 1–30: Shock, logistics, and self-care
Days 1–30 (Shock and Logistics): Focuses on immediate survival, numbness, and basic self-care during funeral planning and the initial aftermath.
* Days 31–60: Guilt, anger, and isolation 
Days 31–60 (Reality and Isolation): Explores the fading of social support, the onset of intense guilt and anger, and the loneliness of adjusting to daily life without the loved one.
* Days 61–90: Rebuilding and honoring memory
Days 61–90 (Rebuilding and Integration): Guides survivors in slowly accepting their new reality, honoring their loved one’s memory, and carrying grief while moving forward .
Each chapter addresses specific emotions and experiences, including:
• Shock and trauma responses (“The Shock That Breaks Everything”)
• Guilt and survivor’s blame (“The Guilt That Eats You Alive”)
• Anger and stigma (“The Anger Nobody Talks About”)
• Hurtful remarks from others
• Loneliness and isolation
• Recognizing symbolic ‘winks’ from the deceased
• Daily coping routines and survival strategies
• Honoring memory without erasing pain